EXAMPLE OF IRRATIONAL THINKING AND DEBILITATIVE EMOTIONS

Event                          Thought                      Feeling

Dispute Irrational Thoughts                     New Feeling

EVENT:        Girlfriend just broke up with you.

The woman you dated for the last six months just broke the news that she is dating someone else and wishes to end the relationships with you.

YOUR THOUGHTS: 

This is awful.  Everything bad happens to me.

She shouldn’t break up with me after all I have done for her.

She was my soul mate.  If she doesn’t want me, there is no one for me.  No one else could possible want me.

YOUR ACTIONS:

Can’t get out of bed – miss work for three days.

Can’t eat.

Cancel plans with friends.  Stay home and cry.

Destroy gifts from girlfriend.

Write negative comments about her on Facebook.

FEELINGS:

The intensity/duration of these thoughts can lead to debilitative emotions such as . . .

POSSIBLE DEBILITATIVE EMOTIONS:

Depression?

Resentment?

DISPUTE IRRATIONAL THINKING:

Sad for a while, then move on

ANY IRRATIONAL FALLACIES IN THOUGHTS THAT WERE NAMED ABOVE?

This is awful.  Everything bad happens to me.

She shouldn’t break up with me after all I have done for her.

She was my soul mate.  If she doesn’t want me, there is no one for me.  No one else could possible want me.

IRRATIONAL FALLACIES IN THOUGHTS ABOVE:

This is awful.  Everything bad happens to me.

[Fallacy of Overgeneralization]

She shouldn’t break up with me after all I have done for her.

[Fallacy of Should]

She was my soul mate.  If she doesn’t want me, there is no one for me.  No one else could possible want me.

[Fallacy of Helplessness]